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babeinthewoodsThere's a writing on K&P this morning that got me thinking.
[DRAMADRAMADRAMA! - the cry of the coward][https://fetlife.com/users/1601415/posts/1329061#comments].
It makes sense, and therefore I can't understand why it would have made it right to the top of the K&P pile, but there it is...saying something I've long espoused.
*Just because something is unpleasant or unfortunate or makes people need some support doesn't make it "drama"*
And then it goes one better:
*REAL LIFE isn't drama. And REAL LIFE happens to everyone. And labeling it "Drama" is just a coward's excuse for avoiding it.*
I wanted to write a hearty BRAVO!!!! to the author. I wanted to give a standing ovation.
I couldn't, though.
I had to write here.
I have to wonder why the constant chorus of "ACK...DRAMA...NO DRAMA!!!!!! GET YOUR DRAMA OUTTA MY FACE!!!!! I'M EASY GOING AND DON'T ABIDE BY DRAMA!!!!!!!!!!" in a sub-culture that's made up of people who seek out the "extreme".
To recap, those who eschew the mundane, the boring and the expected label the effects as undesireable. If you're really that milquetoast, is the extreme really for you? Shouldn't you be doing something far less interesting if you can't handle interesting? I hear that kite flying is a rewarding hobby and since you do it alone, chances are good that nothing will happen that will cause you to have to think. Or react. Or dig down deep and find enough empathy to say "Fuck...that *SUCKS*".
What the holy, flying, ever-loving, effing fuck????
Did I miss a memo?
Did I somehow fall down, hit my head, pass out and wake up in Crazy?
That makes no sense.
As the author of that other piece points out, it's so often "real life" labelled as "Drama".
Breakups, bad experiences, job losses, transportation issues, children, spouses...life. Drama, drama, drama...and this sub-culture won't abide by it.
In fact, I've even seen people say "I love you" is "drama".
I have no idea how to reply to that. Love is drama? Life is drama?
Hell, I was once broken up with for being dramatic. Okay, more than once. The most memorable was this past Christmas Eve when I told my "partner" that I was very ill, in bed, with a fever of 104.6F. Apparently sharing with my "boyfriend" that I was sick was "drama".
Uhm...okay.
This trend, obnoxious on the surface and terrifying underneath, tells us that here in the Kinkiverse we're not supposed to be "real people" with "real life issues". That having a life with all the twists, turns and pitfalls that will happen in a real life makes us undesirable and something to be shunned at all costs because real life will ruin the illusion that this "lifestyle" is.
For the record, and I've said this before, I don't dislike drama.
In fact, I fucking love drama and I remove anyone from my life who joins the Hallelujah chorus of "NO DRAMA!!!!!!!!".
Life is messy.
Life is dramatic.
It's what makes life interesting.
Drama is what moves a story along. It's what engages us.
Would you go to a movie where the heroine does nothing but enjoy her soy-latte and her fat-free scone?
Hell no.
That's just a moment. A boring moment at that.
The real story is how she got there. How she had to fight the fire breathing dragon, avoid the pirates and outsmart the troll underneath the bridge that fell apart as she crossed it to get there.
That is the story.
The drama.
The life lived messily.
Life is meant to be LIVED, and by living you're bound to make mistakes. To trip. To fall on your face. To take chances, and sometimes fail miserably but also sometimes to succeed in ways that you never imagined.
Life is mess, and if your life isn't messy I don't really want to know you because it tells me that your "drama free existence" is a figment of your imagination. A house of cards built on a foundation of sand.
It's a fun house mirror reflection of life because no one is perfect. No one's life is that even, balanced and without incident unless they're avoiding life.
Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.
In this world, the con you're being sold is that you should be able to take risks, push the envelope and shout at devils without any repercussions at all. And the cotton candy is free, too.
So, I'll take the drama, and I'll pass on the "easy going" fakers. I'll take the bad, the messy and the downright "dramatic" because it leaves the door open for the happy, the amazing, the beguiling and the interesting.
I like interesting. I like to be engaged.
And I fucking LOVE drama, drama queens and the mess they openly acknowledge exists in the world.
[DRAMADRAMADRAMA! - the cry of the coward][https://fetlife.com/users/1601415/posts/1329061#comments].
It makes sense, and therefore I can't understand why it would have made it right to the top of the K&P pile, but there it is...saying something I've long espoused.
*Just because something is unpleasant or unfortunate or makes people need some support doesn't make it "drama"*
And then it goes one better:
*REAL LIFE isn't drama. And REAL LIFE happens to everyone. And labeling it "Drama" is just a coward's excuse for avoiding it.*
I wanted to write a hearty BRAVO!!!! to the author. I wanted to give a standing ovation.
I couldn't, though.
I had to write here.
I have to wonder why the constant chorus of "ACK...DRAMA...NO DRAMA!!!!!! GET YOUR DRAMA OUTTA MY FACE!!!!! I'M EASY GOING AND DON'T ABIDE BY DRAMA!!!!!!!!!!" in a sub-culture that's made up of people who seek out the "extreme".
To recap, those who eschew the mundane, the boring and the expected label the effects as undesireable. If you're really that milquetoast, is the extreme really for you? Shouldn't you be doing something far less interesting if you can't handle interesting? I hear that kite flying is a rewarding hobby and since you do it alone, chances are good that nothing will happen that will cause you to have to think. Or react. Or dig down deep and find enough empathy to say "Fuck...that *SUCKS*".
What the holy, flying, ever-loving, effing fuck????
Did I miss a memo?
Did I somehow fall down, hit my head, pass out and wake up in Crazy?
That makes no sense.
As the author of that other piece points out, it's so often "real life" labelled as "Drama".
Breakups, bad experiences, job losses, transportation issues, children, spouses...life. Drama, drama, drama...and this sub-culture won't abide by it.
In fact, I've even seen people say "I love you" is "drama".
I have no idea how to reply to that. Love is drama? Life is drama?
Hell, I was once broken up with for being dramatic. Okay, more than once. The most memorable was this past Christmas Eve when I told my "partner" that I was very ill, in bed, with a fever of 104.6F. Apparently sharing with my "boyfriend" that I was sick was "drama".
Uhm...okay.
This trend, obnoxious on the surface and terrifying underneath, tells us that here in the Kinkiverse we're not supposed to be "real people" with "real life issues". That having a life with all the twists, turns and pitfalls that will happen in a real life makes us undesirable and something to be shunned at all costs because real life will ruin the illusion that this "lifestyle" is.
For the record, and I've said this before, I don't dislike drama.
In fact, I fucking love drama and I remove anyone from my life who joins the Hallelujah chorus of "NO DRAMA!!!!!!!!".
Life is messy.
Life is dramatic.
It's what makes life interesting.
Drama is what moves a story along. It's what engages us.
Would you go to a movie where the heroine does nothing but enjoy her soy-latte and her fat-free scone?
Hell no.
That's just a moment. A boring moment at that.
The real story is how she got there. How she had to fight the fire breathing dragon, avoid the pirates and outsmart the troll underneath the bridge that fell apart as she crossed it to get there.
That is the story.
The drama.
The life lived messily.
Life is meant to be LIVED, and by living you're bound to make mistakes. To trip. To fall on your face. To take chances, and sometimes fail miserably but also sometimes to succeed in ways that you never imagined.
Life is mess, and if your life isn't messy I don't really want to know you because it tells me that your "drama free existence" is a figment of your imagination. A house of cards built on a foundation of sand.
It's a fun house mirror reflection of life because no one is perfect. No one's life is that even, balanced and without incident unless they're avoiding life.
Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.
In this world, the con you're being sold is that you should be able to take risks, push the envelope and shout at devils without any repercussions at all. And the cotton candy is free, too.
So, I'll take the drama, and I'll pass on the "easy going" fakers. I'll take the bad, the messy and the downright "dramatic" because it leaves the door open for the happy, the amazing, the beguiling and the interesting.
I like interesting. I like to be engaged.
And I fucking LOVE drama, drama queens and the mess they openly acknowledge exists in the world.
